Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn’t have the time to sit around and talk about you. What’s important to me is not others’ opinions of me, but what’s important to me is my opinion of myself.
“Women are not making it up when they say they’re damned if they do, damned if they don’t,” said Stephanie Shields, the psychology professor who conducted the study. “If you don’t express any emotion, you’re seen as not human, like Mr. Spock on ‘Star Trek,’” she said. “But too much crying, or the wrong kind, and you’re labeled as overemotional, out of control and possibly irrational.”
He looked at me like I was crazy. Most of my lovers do, and that’s partly why they love me, and partly why they leave.
It was beautiful and it was miserable and I couldn’t do anything more than simply breathe it in.